Prof PC Wong - NUH fertility specialist in Singapore

Clomid is a drug that helps trigger ovulation and to regulate your menses. Dr Henry Cheng prescribed me to take two tablets a day. I have to take it from day 2 to day 6 of my cycle. During my first cycle, menses came on Day 15 just like how a normal period is supposed to be and something I was lacking for quite a while. I told myself that it was good news that Clomid worked for me. 

My husband was overseas so I wasn't hoping too much. It was a wasted cycle as he had to attend an overseas conference and thus, we missed the golden period to have sex, have sexual intercourse or MAKE LOVE. After all these shit that had been happening, I truly realised why having sex is called making love. Love means love, why do you need to make it? Suddenly, I realised that two person came together trying their best to make a baby - the product of their love. Therefore, it is called making love.

During the second cycle, I switched to Prof PC Wong. I was such a crappy doctor hopper. My mother did question me on the need to doc hop. She was worried that doctors would not have sufficient history if I kept hopping around. I made the switch due to the fact that Dr Tan Lee Kee had mentioned a very important point - Dr Henry Cheng was not a fertility specialist. 

I made another attempt to search the internet for any specialist gynae that might do irregular menstration, pco, miscarriage. I came across NUH website that shows Prof Wong heading the Reproductive Endocrinology dept.

I was very nervous about my visit because I was afraid he would dispense the same advice as my previous LC Cheng. I was afraid he too would not support my quest in finding out what was wrong and thought that I was overreacting.

My friend told me that he was a man of few words so I had already braved myself that it might be a wasted trip and I would not hear much. To my surprise, he was wearing a bow tie and looked very much like a Prof in those hk TVB drama series.

I was glad that he took me very seriously when I told him about my irregular menstration, PCO and twice early miscarriage. Prof Wong asked me when I first had my menses and detailed questions about my family history for example, any members suffering from high blood or cancer. He also diligently asked me about my previous chemical pregnancies and also about my periods symptoms. Instead of brushing my worries aside and assuring me that doing tests might be futile, he assured me that with two bio chemical pregnancies aka early miscarriages, it was time to take things more seriously. Now that I was in their care, they would do what they could to fix whatever problems there were. He recommended that my husband to do a blood test and sperm analysis and for me to run a hormone and insulin test on day 2 of my menstration. The results would then advise us what to do next. I felt like a lost child having found his parent. For my previous gynae, Dr LC Cheng, at TMC, I suggested to him that I hoped to go for any tests that might help diagnose the situation. He was not supportive and said that the tests were not necessary. I felt lost and without direction. What if something was really wrong? What if I had to face a third miscarriage?

Prof Wong went to do a transvaginal ultrasound and commented that my ovaries were only slightly polycystic. He swapped some samples and requested for testing.

Prof Wong asked me to wait at least one month before trying to conceive again. I was a little disappointed. Emotionally, I could not wait to try again since my previous gynae said it would not be a problem.

I was glad that I had found a doctor who was willing to provide a course of actions for me to undertake. I told him I was grateful to have met him today and he said, "Thank me only when we have a successful pregnancy."

The visit to Prof Wong cost $300 plus in all. His first consultation was only $155 for a head of department. I felt that it was cheap only because my previous gynae charged $200 for his consultation at Thomson Medical Centre. 

Based on my previous experience, I found charting BBT to be very accurate in confirming ovulation. On Day 13, my ovulation test kit was positive. I also had fertile cervical mucus. On Day 14, my temp fell to 36.3 deg Celsius. It shot up to 36.8 the next day and it had consistently maintained at higher temperatures till now. For those new to BBT, pre ovulation temps were usually below 36.5 and post ovulation temps were above 36.6. Yesterday and today, my temps were 37.1. Today was Day 19.

Prof Wong advised us to try for a baby on Day 13, 14 and 15 or alternate, Day 13 and 15. We tried for all three days as my TCM (Traditional Chinese Medicine) Dr Tan Kian Sing advised us to try all three days. It was very tiring to try consecutively haha. Prof Wong asked me to test for pregnancy only three weeks later. I asked him why. He merely replied not to test so early. That meant I could only test for pregnancy on 19 March. Dr Tan KS also said to just wait for 18 days more before testing.

I was taking herbal supplements prescribed by Dr Tan. In my previous post, he called them "An Tai Yao" - calm baby medicine. The herbal supplements were made from a modern pharmaceutical company in Guangzhou. After viewing so many YouTubes on scary China products, I was a little worried. But I told myself, since there were women giving birth to healthy kids under Dr Tan, it shouldn't be a problem. I tried to google on Guangdong Yifang Pharma in case of complaints reports but found none. I felt healthier after taking the supplements but physically not really. Emotionally, I felt more secure knowing that I was taking some kind of alternate medication to support my frail body that had recently been a host to flu viruses.

Do you know why my recent second bout of cold or flu took so long to heal? It was because I refused antibiotics from the doctor just in case I was pregnant. I hope God would heal me soon. It was really tough to work and nursing green mucus.

If Prof Wong knew that I had been taking herbal supplements, he was going to kill me because he had mentioned that  since we did not know what was inside, it was better not to consume. Accupuncture was fine though.

This was really such a step of faith for me. Not knowing what was inside, just by trusting the TCM doctor. This is how I put my trust in God, it's a step of faith.

Nowadays, my prayers to God had also changed. Not so desperate anymore. I needed to learn to draw strength from Him and to trust Him that no matter what happened, I must continue to hope and learn to bask in peace. This was totally in conflict with all the Christian Pregnancy books that I had been reading. They all advocated praying for the baby development and for miracles. They all advocated that no woman shall miscarry. I thought back to my dating days. I had followed everything that a Christian dating book said and my relationship which I thought was great turn out to be shit. Then, I decided to let go. Let go of my desire to find love, let go of my efforts to want to fix a relationship. I told myself to surrender to the will of God. I stopped praying for The One. I prayed once for God's will to be in my life. I stopped fretting and continued serving in church. I became a spiritual parent (some title for some sort of leadership position) and attended bible study groups and leadership cells faithfully! Lo and behold, my husband dropped from heaven and appeared in front of me during one of the leadership cell. I felt so blessed because I felt so loved by God as I knew that my husband is a perfect match for me in every way. I enjoyed my marriage very much. I felt that he was a gift from God.

I related this because then, I fretted over finding The One. Now I fretted over The Baby. I should let go just like how I had let go and let God. I was again reminded of this when someone in FB posted:

The best things always happen when you least expect it...