Land of Lemons

Written by J.S., a reader of "Baby Making, Finding Hope" Went thru briefly on your blog and a lot of your experience is same as mine. I had 2 unsuccessful pregnancy over these two years. 2013 was chemical pregnancy and 2014 April a miscarriage at week 8.  After the miscarriage, I keep myself in isolation. And felt angry and sad whenever my pregnant friends msg me and ask how I am. By the way, 4 of my best friends got pregnant around the same time as me.  It took me 4 months to get back on my feet again. One of the strength that got me on my feet again is my husband. He may not be the most sensitive guy or knows what to do during such situation. He sometimes even shows his disappointment whenever bad news is sent to him. I know that deep inside, he is worried and sad for us. That is why I have to be strong for him and ourselves.  Another strength that I have found is to know the ladies in Singaporemotherhood forum - sharing their experience and encouraging each other e

Scriptures concerning Fertility and Childbirth Is it God's will for me to conceive and give birth to children? Yes, absolutely, The first command God gave to mankind was to "be fruitful and multiply." Genesis 1:28  Then God blessed them and said, "Be fruitful and multiply. Fill the earth and govern it. Reign over the fish in the sea, the birds in the sky, and all the animals that scurry along the ground." Genesis 9:1 After the flood God again commanded Noah and his family and said, "Be fruitful, and multiply, and replenish the earth." God loves children!  Fertility and children were always viewed as blessings in the Bible. It is not God's will to withhold any blessing from you. Psalm 84:11   For the LORD God is our sun and our shield. He gives us grace and glory. The LORD will withhold no good thing from those who do what is right. Jesus loves infants and children! Luke 18:15-16   Then they also brought  infants  to Him

It is the time of the month to purge the emotional toxic out of my body. Today I woke up with 36.4. Almost instantly, I knew that today my period is going to knock on my door because my temp has been above 36.6 for about two weeks. Finally I spotted. Don't get me wrong that I feel sad that my period is coming. I felt quite happy because I have been stuffing myself with antibiotics, panadols, runny nose meds this cycle. If I were to fall pregnant, I would have been worried if my child would be affected. If my period arrives tomorrow, it would be a 36 day cycle. Not too bad for someone who had fallen sick. For the past two and 8 months, I have been so obsessed with observing my white discharge, temperature and period. I have never paid more attention to it before that. I am not so uptight now as compared to when I first started my route to become a frenzied goggle finder on anything that has to do with fertility and miscarriages. Now, I have mellowed. Two things and images that

My sister, an online guru, started reading aloud Jade Seah's entry on her abusive relationship while I was fetching her home. I felt as if I was transported back to those days when I was dating this guy, let's just call him Josh. I know I am supposed to blog about fertility but today, I am going to side track a little. When I was 24, I was working in an environment whereby there were no suitable partners. My last relationship was two years ago. Most eligible guys are attached when you are in your mid twenties. It takes a bit of fate to get paired up. I even went for SDU events. I remembered I went for two events. Both were those events whereby you have a drink and people just randomly talked to you. I did not meet anyone suitable. I did go out with a guy who was much older than me. He was 34. I was okay with his age but he enjoyed running so much that he forced me to sprint the last lap even though I was on the verge of collapsing. Our conversations were always a tad too awkw

If you have read my earlier post under "another visit to Dr Tan Siew Buoy", I mentioned that I would be trying my best to get pregnant this month because finally, my asthma is getting better. Try my best, I did. I exercise every alternate day because I have learnt in the past that exercise is good for my PCO condition. I ate properly. We also ensure that from Day 11 onwards, we had sexual intercourse every alternate day. Today was Day 19. I woke up with a horrible horrible high fever of close to 39 degree celcius. I had started to fall sick yesterday. Yesterday, I woke up with 37.1 and I already knew that something was amiss because the day before, my temperature was 36.4. The spike was unusual. I went to work as usual. The air con blasting the office was unbearable. There was this female colleague, who sat a few desks away, always made the air con very cold because she insisted that she could not feel the air con at her area, making the majority of us in the room, suffer

I have shared in my previous post that it is important to fill our mind with positive thoughts. Apart from taking control of our mind, it is important to take control of our lifestyle too! Today I would be blogging about lifestyle changes from the various sources that I have come across or from personal experiences. 1. Avoiding Overwork I came across an interesting book that discourages women from going to the gym after work to exercise to the point of exhaustion. I have always thought that to sweat it out after work is considered very healthy but this book says that such workouts will deplete our bodies of energy. The book recommends exercising in the morning if possible. Evenings are for recuperation. It recommends walking and yoga stretches instead and also suggested some "fertile activities" - holidays, painting, writing courses, gardening, cooking (anything that is a creative distraction. Fertile activities allow women to soften and to be less controlled and rigid