Stories of our journey from readers

Written by J.S., a reader of "Baby Making, Finding Hope"

 Went thru briefly on your blog and a lot of your experience is same as mine. I had 2 unsuccessful pregnancy over these two years. 2013 was chemical pregnancy and 2014 April a miscarriage at week 8. 

 After the miscarriage, I keep myself in isolation. And felt angry and sad whenever my pregnant friends msg me and ask how I am. By the way, 4 of my best friends got pregnant around the same time as me. 

 It took me 4 months to get back on my feet again. One of the strength that got me on my feet again is my husband. He may not be the most sensitive guy or knows what to do during such situation. He sometimes even shows his disappointment whenever bad news is sent to him. I know that deep inside, he is worried and sad for us. That is why I have to be strong for him and ourselves. 

 Another strength that I have found is to know the ladies in Singaporemotherhood forum - sharing their experience and encouraging each other even though we are just strangers. We are not afraid to share our emotions and thoughts and at the same time give support to one another. 

I am glad you are setting up a blog. 

 I also realized that although our government has been promoting couples to give birth. But there is no support given to us who are trying hard year by year and the bills keep going up with all the tests and treatments that we have been going through. There is also no support group / help center to help or guide us. Please keep your blog going and I hope your blog will reach out to more women like us who is praying hard and looking for hope that we will soon see our rainbow babies. 

Comments

  1. Unknown29 August 2014 at 19:14

    Dear J.S.,

    Thank you for sharing your journey... Keep me updated. I too, feel, very strongly that the government is not doing much to help women who have challenges in conceiving even though the nation's birth rate is a problem. They are encouraging women to give birth by increasing subsidies for child care and baby bonus.

    I heard that we can only claim for IVF if we are subsidised patients. For my case, IVIG is not considered a recognised form of intervention by MOH (I heard), therefore no subsidy at all.

    I have spent easily a five figure sum on my journey and still no results. I really wish I could receive some form of a support from the government such as providing subsidies for even private patients as long as you can prove that you are doing interventions to conceive.

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