Not so obvious things you would miss out if you have no kids

Remember I shared with you about my close friend who doesn't really want to be pregnant is pregnant? She is 5 or 6 months pregnant now. She just shared with another friend in a chat group that she is very worried that her child would be a lifelong burden that she doesn't want and she is wondering if life is better with kids or without kids. I told that other friend that - well, then can she accept a life without kids? This thought prompted me to think of all the not so obvious things that we would miss out if we have no kids. Obvious things would be not so lonely, common topic between you and hub blah blah blah so I would not be going into that direction.

Anyway, remember I just told you that this friend shared with that friend in a chat group? I casually asked, "Oh, is that a separate chat group for MUMMIES? My that friend nodded her head sheepishly. So one of the things that you would miss would be NOT BE ABLE TO BE INVITED TO JOIN A MUMMIES CHATGROUP among your friends. I can so imagine every mummy showing off their knowledge of what they have gone through and becoming more bonded with each other. Related to this chat group thingy would be NOT BE ABLE TO PARTICIPATE IN PLAYDATES OUTINGS! Through some conversations, you will find out that your friends have met up without you because they are taking their kids to Pollywogs or whatever new kiddy playgrounds that is up and coming.

Most friends that I know love love love love to share what their children have learnt and then proceed to coax their children to demonstrate what they have just shared. So obviously if you have no kids, you can't SHOW OFF and feel a sense of puffiness and light headedness entering your brain as the others exclaim how clever your child is.

Oh and if you have no kids when everyone else has kids, you suddenly find yourself dreading outings because the topics always always always revolve around toddlers enrichment centres. So no kids, no chance to Act knowledgeable about child care centres. One on one is very okay but when a bunch of mummies get together - wooh, they relish in such never-ending topics.

Of course, you would never be able to garner 152 likes just by posting a pic of your newborn on Facebook. Everyone loves liking kiddo pictures.

The last one I could think of tonight - Get a family parking lot!

Maybe I should start hanging out with people with no kids.




Comments

  1. asecondchance6 December 2014 at 06:04

    My friends outing, all they talked about throughout dinner are their kids….what school to enroll them in, what food they prepare for them blah blah. I couldn't even participate in their conversation but just pretend to nod in acknowledgment. Yes you are right one to one is not so bad but with a group, ok don't even need a group just two mummies get together and you will feel left out. I can understand their excitement that they are finally able to chat and share about their child. However can't help but feel very "wu nai" and n left out so no longer wish to go out with them.

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  2. Anonymous7 December 2014 at 17:48

    UAP here again...
    I haven't got close friends who are mothers yet but now that I have read this post of your's, it suddenly dawned on me what extra things I am missing out on... :( I can imagine my colleagues having a mummies chat group without me too. :(
    When will our turn ever again? How I wish we all see a miracle this Christmas...
    Sorry to sound emo... Today is DPO 13 for me and my BBT has been dropping for 2 days. :(

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  3. Unknown14 December 2014 at 00:49

    yah man damn sian to see it drop ... sometimes I find BBT very stressful because of this. Drop means something and rise means something. I am always guessing as if I am in a unstable relationship, no sense of security and a tinge of anxiety.

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