Land of Lemons

Written by reader Joshua We have gone through all the steps with PC Wong (3 times IVF). Even pc wong cannot tell us why it didnt work. He said after the insertion process, it is up to God. He suggest to do ivf together with acupuncture. We also visited Sinshe Ms Tan Siew Buoy, Sinshe Dr Tan Kian Seng also in between. All with no luck. We tried Sinshe Tan Siew Lan also. We had our first pregnancy in 2005, but there was no heart beat in week 8. We had our second pregnancy during our consultation with Sinshe Tan Siew Lan (forgot the year but before IVF), but there was a problem with the pregnancy as the embrio has no skull (anenchepaly) and we had no choice but to do abortion. There is no test for the first failed pregnancy. The gynae told us to try again. On second failed pregnancy, the gynae did suggest to do chromosome test but me and my wife feel that we should not proceed with the test and keep on trying.I have low sperm motility. I really wish I can do something but th...

When I woke up in the morning, I took my temperature and realised that it had dipped to 36.6 (look at the graph from the smart app "Fertility Friend"), I felt disappointment creeping into my otherwise, well rested body. Dipping around Day 30 always means an impending period. Yesterday night, by 10pm, my body shut down and I slumped my body on my bed. I realised that it is not the number of hours that matters but the time that you sleep. If I sleep at 12 and wake up at 8, it is not as refreshing as sleeping at 10 and waking up at 6.  I brushed my teeth and drank water. I sat down on the sofa, still thumping the disappointment down. "Hey, 36.6 is not that bad. Don't think so much," I consoled myself. I switched on the fan and the cold wind blew. I took my phone and checked Facebook as if it was my morning devotional material.  "Ah another friend is expecting and is hinting online," I whispered in my head. I didn't bother to wri...

I have just gotten back from two short trips back to back and felt so refreshed! For the first trip, I went back to Sentosa and had such a fun and relaxing time with my husband. We stayed in Siloso Resort and the environment is soooo perfect for a romantic romp under the sheets. Everyday, we swam, relaxed, ate nice meals. It happened to be during my ovulation period and I am trying my utmost best not to stress myself by wanting to get pregnant - so I am going to practise affirming myself and visualise positive things. Affirming myself aloud ...  My ovaries are healthy. I do not have PCO. My ovaries are releasing an egg every month. I WILL become pregnant when the environment is conducive. (I watched LUCY the movie and I was so awe struck by what the professor said - when the environment in living things is conducive, the cells multiply and living things start to reproduce offsprings to pass on the information in the form of DNA. When the environment is not conducive, the cells ...

Written by J.S., a reader of "Baby Making, Finding Hope" Went thru briefly on your blog and a lot of your experience is same as mine. I had 2 unsuccessful pregnancy over these two years. 2013 was chemical pregnancy and 2014 April a miscarriage at week 8.  After the miscarriage, I keep myself in isolation. And felt angry and sad whenever my pregnant friends msg me and ask how I am. By the way, 4 of my best friends got pregnant around the same time as me.  It took me 4 months to get back on my feet again. One of the strength that got me on my feet again is my husband. He may not be the most sensitive guy or knows what to do during such situation. He sometimes even shows his disappointment whenever bad news is sent to him. I know that deep inside, he is worried and sad for us. That is why I have to be strong for him and ourselves.  Another strength that I have found is to know the ladies in Singaporemotherhood forum - sharing their experience and encouraging each oth...

Scriptures concerning Fertility and Childbirth Is it God's will for me to conceive and give birth to children? Yes, absolutely, The first command God gave to mankind was to "be fruitful and multiply." Genesis 1:28  Then God blessed them and said, "Be fruitful and multiply. Fill the earth and govern it. Reign over the fish in the sea, the birds in the sky, and all the animals that scurry along the ground." Genesis 9:1 After the flood God again commanded Noah and his family and said, "Be fruitful, and multiply, and replenish the earth." God loves children!  Fertility and children were always viewed as blessings in the Bible. It is not God's will to withhold any blessing from you. Psalm 84:11   For the LORD God is our sun and our shield. He gives us grace and glory. The LORD will withhold no good thing from those who do what is right. Jesus loves infants and children! Luke 18:15-16   Then they also brought  infants  to Him ...

It is the time of the month to purge the emotional toxic out of my body. Today I woke up with 36.4. Almost instantly, I knew that today my period is going to knock on my door because my temp has been above 36.6 for about two weeks. Finally I spotted. Don't get me wrong that I feel sad that my period is coming. I felt quite happy because I have been stuffing myself with antibiotics, panadols, runny nose meds this cycle. If I were to fall pregnant, I would have been worried if my child would be affected. If my period arrives tomorrow, it would be a 36 day cycle. Not too bad for someone who had fallen sick. For the past two and 8 months, I have been so obsessed with observing my white discharge, temperature and period. I have never paid more attention to it before that. I am not so uptight now as compared to when I first started my route to become a frenzied goggle finder on anything that has to do with fertility and miscarriages. Now, I have mellowed. Two things and images that...

My sister, an online guru, started reading aloud Jade Seah's entry on her abusive relationship while I was fetching her home. I felt as if I was transported back to those days when I was dating this guy, let's just call him Josh. I know I am supposed to blog about fertility but today, I am going to side track a little. When I was 24, I was working in an environment whereby there were no suitable partners. My last relationship was two years ago. Most eligible guys are attached when you are in your mid twenties. It takes a bit of fate to get paired up. I even went for SDU events. I remembered I went for two events. Both were those events whereby you have a drink and people just randomly talked to you. I did not meet anyone suitable. I did go out with a guy who was much older than me. He was 34. I was okay with his age but he enjoyed running so much that he forced me to sprint the last lap even though I was on the verge of collapsing. Our conversations were always a tad too awkw...