Counting and comforting myself

Okay. Let's face it. I have not been able to get pregnant since last May 2013. That means 17 months. I started seeing Dr Tan Siew Buoy in July. That means I have seen her for 15 months. Let's do the counting.

First 3 months after May - Tiao body and she says do not try yet

Sept and Oct - Emotionally not ready so I did not really had intercourse over an intensive period. Only on and off

That leaves us with 10 months.

In Nov, I was sick.

9 months left.

I went overseas. I was very sick and developed asthma. I took asthma inhalers for 3 months which messed up my cycles.

6 months

Because I did not take the inhalers, I was sick for 2 months although my cycles were not very far off.

4 months

Out of 4 months, 2 months, I missed the golden days that she circled for intercourse because I was freaking tired and super no mood on those days.

That leaves us with 2 months.

Out of 2 months, I fell sick and had high fever during one month.

Last month

My mum contracted cancer. The news stressed me out.

No months left.

So the conclusion - It is not fair to say that Dr Tan Siew Buoy's medical treatment is ineffective.

Now, I am having my very precious period. I do not feel tired. I feel normal. I do not feel any cramps or discomfort or pain at all. I do not have any headaches. I do not have aches. My stomach is not bloated. My blood is red and liquid, not clotty and black. I do not feel any pulling down sensation on my tummy. These bad symptoms were what I felt before taking her meds.

My male colleague just came up to me and said, "My wife just had a miscarriage. It is her second time, I thought you would understand," Tears were stinging his eyes.

My reaction, "Wah lao... I am so sorry. That is very sad."

Then I shared with him that it is normal of normal gynaes to say it is just bad luck. He also agreed and we both cursed and sweared ,"Kan Ni na beh, tell us nvm, take it easy, bad luck, try again. PUI!"











Comments

  1. Anonymous17 November 2014 at 20:30

    I am the usual anonymous person again. Just realised I seemed to miss this entry of your's. I like it that you and your col can curse together. Sometimes it is just so angry... Sometimes gynae, people who not been through it just don't understand!
    I feel angry too when people asked me when when when is my turn, when we are trying so hard each month. I just kanna the question like 3 times over the weekend but I reacted rather well.. hahaha.. I really got a long way to go, in terms of learning to be more zen.

    I am happy for you that you are feeling much less uncomfortable during your period. I sincerely hope to see you graduate soon too! Lets jia you!

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  2. Unknown22 November 2014 at 05:18

    Nowadays, I just tell them the truth.. advice is better than nagging. Once the aunties know, they start to say "eat this herb blah", better than "aiyo why still don't want to have baby? Play enough liao lah. when baby coming?"

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  3. Anonymous24 November 2014 at 00:52

    UAP here.
    I feel that I still cant accept telling people the truth and seeing people giving me looks of sympathy...
    Sigh... :(

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  4. Unknown24 November 2014 at 05:57

    Yah lor... then how? What good answers have you given? Share leh.. I did silence and smile before. very effective. Just look very dao.

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