Infertility - Is it simply an act of nature?

My asthma is much better after applying what I have found online as posted. I can't sleep now because I have so many conflicting thoughts.

Recently, I began to entertain strange thoughts - no not silly thoughts of suicide but really strange thoughts.

What if infertility is just an act of nature?

Nature knows best. If we intervene so much, are we going against nature? Is it nature's way of eliminating the weak?

I remembered my colleague sharing with me that she finally managed to conceive as a result of going for TCM. Her son is already Primary 5. But alas, she and her husband just divorced. What if nature knows best? If she had not forcefully wanted to have a child at the wrong time, maybe she and her husband would still be together? I have seen couples with no kids but they still seem strong as a couple together.

If we try our very best to conceive, through IVF, IUI, clomid, IVIG etc, the baby is healthy but is that the best path? At that point in time, the baby is healthy. What is going to happen ten, twenty years down the road? Would there be more sufferings and heartache? Should we simply just let God decide when He wants us to have children?

Of course, on the other hand, God told us to be fruitful and multiply. If there is something wrong with our bodies, we should get it treated and try our best to procreate. But this journey is so difficult. I am suddenly at a lost whether I should just let nature takes its course or continue to try my best to find alternatives to overcome my issues.


Comments

  1. asecondchance23 November 2014 at 04:46

    Someone who studied buddhism once told me that a child is debt and I am actually bless without one. However I disagree because I see many love around happy families. Why would I be happy being alone? I have so much motherly love to share and yet nowhere to give.

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  2. Unknown23 November 2014 at 17:10

    I always tell some people, there is a difference between not wanting a kid and not able to have a kid whenever they try to make you feel better by telling you all the good things without kids. I recently read my anti cancer book. The author divorced his wife because over the past ten years, she has showered so much attention on her son that she neglected him and he left the marriage because it no longer provided him the support that he has before the arrival of his son. Sometimes, I entertained weird thoughts like maybe those people who do not want to have kids should find partners who cannot have kids. Perfect match.

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