Land of Lemons

Written by reader Joshua We have gone through all the steps with PC Wong (3 times IVF). Even pc wong cannot tell us why it didnt work. He said after the insertion process, it is up to God. He suggest to do ivf together with acupuncture. We also visited Sinshe Ms Tan Siew Buoy, Sinshe Dr Tan Kian Seng also in between. All with no luck. We tried Sinshe Tan Siew Lan also. We had our first pregnancy in 2005, but there was no heart beat in week 8. We had our second pregnancy during our consultation with Sinshe Tan Siew Lan (forgot the year but before IVF), but there was a problem with the pregnancy as the embrio has no skull (anenchepaly) and we had no choice but to do abortion. There is no test for the first failed pregnancy. The gynae told us to try again. On second failed pregnancy, the gynae did suggest to do chromosome test but me and my wife feel that we should not proceed with the test and keep on trying.I have low sperm motility. I really wish I can do something but th...

When I woke up in the morning, I took my temperature and realised that it had dipped to 36.6 (look at the graph from the smart app "Fertility Friend"), I felt disappointment creeping into my otherwise, well rested body. Dipping around Day 30 always means an impending period. Yesterday night, by 10pm, my body shut down and I slumped my body on my bed. I realised that it is not the number of hours that matters but the time that you sleep. If I sleep at 12 and wake up at 8, it is not as refreshing as sleeping at 10 and waking up at 6.  I brushed my teeth and drank water. I sat down on the sofa, still thumping the disappointment down. "Hey, 36.6 is not that bad. Don't think so much," I consoled myself. I switched on the fan and the cold wind blew. I took my phone and checked Facebook as if it was my morning devotional material.  "Ah another friend is expecting and is hinting online," I whispered in my head. I didn't bother to wri...

I have just gotten back from two short trips back to back and felt so refreshed! For the first trip, I went back to Sentosa and had such a fun and relaxing time with my husband. We stayed in Siloso Resort and the environment is soooo perfect for a romantic romp under the sheets. Everyday, we swam, relaxed, ate nice meals. It happened to be during my ovulation period and I am trying my utmost best not to stress myself by wanting to get pregnant - so I am going to practise affirming myself and visualise positive things. Affirming myself aloud ...  My ovaries are healthy. I do not have PCO. My ovaries are releasing an egg every month. I WILL become pregnant when the environment is conducive. (I watched LUCY the movie and I was so awe struck by what the professor said - when the environment in living things is conducive, the cells multiply and living things start to reproduce offsprings to pass on the information in the form of DNA. When the environment is not conducive, the cells ...